Sunday, June 1, 2014

7 ways to tell if he will make a good boyfriend

Its been awhile since my last blog post, and for the past few weeks I've seen people sharing my previous articles on Facebook and had the strong urge to write something good that would be appreciated by the general blog readers. I've been so busy recently with work and school and hardly had any time. 

So anyway, here is a post on: 

7 ways to tell if he will make a good boyfriend 

When most of us girls are younger, we fantasize about bad boys, boys with tattoos, who bravely get into fights for us and basically one who has that whole 'rebel' image. 

As we grow older, some of us happily settle for a decent, good looking guy while the rest focus on our careers or dream of getting a rich boyfriend with a sports car and a full wallet or a Abercrombie-model-kind-of-handsome boyfriend. 

The few fortunate ones, do get a loyal, good looking and wealthy boyfriends, but unfortunately for the minority, they are left with broken hearts and questions with what went wrong. 

I hate to burst your bubble of fantasies, but honestly, driving a sports car or buying you branded bags does not necessarily make one a good boyfriend. I've met guys like that who cheat on their girlfriends all the time. Also, never get too taken in by a person's appearance, the best potential boyfriends are not necessarily the most handsome ones. And if you want a long term relationship, would physical appearance really matter? Remember that! :)  

Apart from the usual basics of every relationship- honesty, being faithful, etc, here is my own list of 7 ways to tell if he will make a good boyfriend for the remaining of us who don't quite know what we are looking for. 

1. He listens. And remembers. 

I think if you read and follow my posts closely, I really dislike people who don't listen. It's perfectly fine to like talking about yourself. 

But a good man would listen to you, and remember the little things you tell him about yourself. 

The cheap Accessorize bracelet you told him you like? He will surprise you with it. The craving you had for durian? He will bring you for durian. 

I really don't know about other females, but for me, it's not quite the amount of money spent but knowing that he listens and remembers, is definitely one of the best traits you will find in a good boyfriend. 

2. He gives you your space, but you know he will always be there for you. 

When you need him, you know he will be there. You don't feel held back calling him for no reason, you don't feel needy asking him out spontaneously and basically, you feel absolutely comfortable around him.

You know the feeling you get: "Should I text him or wait for him to text me?" If you still feel like that after dating a person for weeks, it's a sign that you're unsure of him and if your feelings for him are reciprocated. Not good. 

3. He makes you feel wanted. 

The last thing every woman wants is a clingy guy. Sure, it can be cute at first but it gets exasperating if it goes on for too long especially if you have your own commitments like work or school. 

Making you feel wanted is letting you feel that despite his busy schedule, he wants to see you, because "your smile brightens up his day". 

One of the best feelings is knowing that someone wants you in his life and part of his daily or weekly routine. If a guy can make you feel this way, you're a lucky girl! :) 

4. Encourages and supports your dreams and goals. 

This is one of my rules that I adhere closely to for relationships. 

Reason: As some of you would have realized, i have a day job but also work in the night life: clubs / discos. 

The guys I dated during this period were uncomfortable BUT supportive of my decision. The money is to be used for my studies and that is my eventual goal. It may not sound good, but I guess some of us have to work a little harder. 

Back to the point: I wouldn't date someone who discourages me from doing what I need to do to achieve my goals. It is a warning sign that he is selfish, and only focuses on his needs, pride and ideas. Much reconsideration is needed if you are dating someone like that now.

However, if you are dating someone that strongly encourages you to pursue your goals, who gives you rational, unbiased advice and who let's you rant about the stress you are facing without telling you to give up, you've met a good man. Treasure him!

5. He has a life. 

Other than you. 

An attractive trait a man should have is having his own life. He has a career, or school and he works hard. This doesn't mean he will neglect you. It shows that he is capable and independent. 

He has his own social circle which he introduces to you. His friends make you feel like one of them and you love hanging out with them. He makes plans to hang out with his family and friends and invites you along, because he wants you to meet them.

On a side note, if your guy has issues introducing you to his friends - something is wrong. He should be nothing, but proud of you. 

6. He is nice to everyone. 

I know as much as we would like him to tell his ex girlfriend to "f*** off", do realize that some day you could be that ex girlfriend of his and it's going to hurt if he says that to you. If he lets her down gently, and slowly edges out of her life, you can be sure he won't be mean to you either. That's a pretty good trait to me. 

If he is kind to old people, to waiters; empathizes with the less fortunate, he is a genuinely nice person. 

Most importantly he should respect his parents, and treat them well. A filial son is a huge turn on and I love guys who are closely bonded with their family members. 

7. He shows you that he loves you.

I've never believed in saying "I love you" to someone unless I genuinely mean it. I don't think it is necessary too. 

Love is a very very deep word and nowadays it is often loosely used nowadays. Loving someone is not just by proclaiming your love all over Facebook, it's about showing the person through actions.  

Instead of simply choosing to believe what he tells you, (afterall everyone wants to believe the nice things we hear and block out the warning signs) note the things he do for you like picking you up after work and bringing you for dinner, getting you a new bag because your bag is broken and so on. 

If a guy shows you through actions that make you feel that you truly mean the world to him, NEVER let him go! 

I hope this post helped some of you have a clearer head and also to treasure the guy you have already. Never take a good guy like that for granted because each time you disappoint him or put him down, he will get disheartened over time. 

If you liked this post, please share it! :) Thank you for reading!

Till the next post, xxx 

Saturday, April 26, 2014

NANO Japan Hyaluron & Collagen2

So recently I tried this new product:

NANO Japan Hyaluron & Collagen2 

It is the latest upgraded beauty collagen drink from Japan, you know how Japanese women have such fair and smooth skin? I've always coveted blemish free and fair skin, so I was really excited to try out this product knowing it's from Japan. 

NANO Collagen is said to be the ultimate beauty drink for everyone who wishes to maintain their youthful looks, and has health anti-aging benefits. 

I like that this is a luxury product and yet functional at the same time and I learnt that the formula took 6 years to fully develop and come to perfection. That is a looong time!


Just as how a baby needs to drink its nutritious milk and an elderly needs to drink formulated milk for heart health and bones strength, NANO Collagen is the ultimate beauty drink for everyone who wants to look as young as now, 20 years from now. It is recommended for those between 20 years old to 50 years old to drink NANO Collagen for the best beauty and health anti-aging benefits. 

It is also made from the highest quality of active ingredients and also has the highest amount (5,500mg) of collagen peptide in every (7gm) scoop for everyday anti-aging skin enhancement.

Adding to that, it contains
-Hyaluron and Vitamin C for whitening effects;
-CoQ10 and Royal Jelly extract for cells repair and anti-oxidant properties;
-Elastin for firming of skin, breast;
-Biotin for hair/scalp strengthening; and last but not least, 
-Lactic Acid Bacteria for digestion plus constipation prevention (the bloated feeling that can be a pain to many people) 

With so many health benefits, adding to the beauty benefit, I am more than willing to consume this drink every day! My mom constantly nags me to wear foundation that protects my skin from the sun, or carry an umbrella, because you know how the sun does damage on your skin in the long term? But now, with NANO Collagen, I feel that this is my secret to protecting my skin from within, and it's not just temporary, it's for the long term! 


NANO Collagen also use only natural ingredients and is tested by Japan Food Research Laboratory and the Singapore AVA Food Safety Lab to be of above safety and quality standards. Furthermore, NANO Collagen does not use any pig or shell-sources derivatives and is also certified HALAL by the Islamic Food Research Council, Malaysia and HK to be suitable for Muslims! 

It is a product meant for every one to enjoy it's benefits. 

How to take NANO Collagen: 

One can will last the user up to 35 days, at one scoop a day. You can also take it anytime and it can be added to any of your favorite beverages and soups. (except fizzy drinks, alcohol beverages and medicated products) 

I would recommend mixing it in milky drinks like milo and hot chocolate, it tastes just a little sweet without any hint of the "fishy" smell of collagen products because NANO Collagen invested a patented biotechnology to remove the "fishy"smell and "nanoized" the powder to half the particle size of other collagen powders for faster dissolving and body absorption. 

NANO Collagen is 100% made in Japan and is currently available in Japan, Hong Kong and Singapore only, it is the NUMBER 1 Best Selling Collagen in Qoo10!!! 

The ingredients are best in the market, containing hyaluron, elastin, biotin, lactic acid bacteria, Vitamin B, Vitamin C, Vitamin E, CoQ10, and Hatogumi extract as mentioned above.  

Keep your skin healthy and improve it with NANO Collagen today, maintain your youthful looks. 

Many Asian customers purchase this product from Singapore via Qoo10, you can purchase it from the following online stores below! 

Try it out for yourself now and keep your skin glowing, and healthy! :))

Thursday, April 17, 2014

7 reasons why you should date Singaporean men

Recently I've been pissed off. Yes seriously pissed off. First, the Singaporean wife of Anton Casey dissed Singaporean men. Then I read another article criticizing Asian men and saying that White women would not go for foreign men (or something along those lines). I really don't know about you but whenever I hear people criticizing anything about my people or country I have to say something, and since I'm good at these kinda topics... 

I felt I had to write something for our Singaporean men so here are: 

7 reasons why you should date Singaporean men 

1. Singaporean men have strong family values. 

My British ex boyfriend shifted out of his house when he was 15. His family had 3 houses in the same town for rent, thus when one was vacant, he shifted there. I was really shocked when he told me that, I just couldn't see myself living away from my family at 15 even if it were just a 20 minute drive away. 

Most Singaporean men live with their family till they get married and move out, and even then, more often than not, they still continue taking care of their parents. 

And there is nothing more attractive than a filial son, because if he treats his parents well and respects them, you can be quite sure you'd get equivalent or even better treatment as his wife. 

2. Similar upbringing and values 

It is definitely easier dating someone who is brought up in the same manner as you were. 

Need I say more?

3. Language barrier

While I was dating the British man, I refused to try to put on that fake slang. I see so many local women putting on these slangs while talking to Ang Mo men, so at the start, there were many occasions when both of us couldn't understand each other especially since he had a very heavy accent. It took us quite a while to learn each other's slang and understand each other's accent. 

It was really frustrated at times, and I seriously doubt I'd wanna go through it again. 

4. Similar expectations of the relationship

I've always felt strongly that Singaporean women are best with Singaporean men. One very strong reason supporting this statement is that both singaporean men and women share the same expectations of a relationship. 

By this, I mean from small everyday details to long term expectations. For example, if you date an Ang mo man, he gives you all the freedom you need. (Usually, from what I learnt from my friends and personal experience.) When you go out, he won't call you to check on you  and you don't have to update him throughout the night, knowing that he won't mind. 

When I was dating that British guy, I had a night out with my friends. When I told him the name of the bar we were going to, he said: "You don't really have to let me know every detail of your doings." And throughout the entire night, I was checking my phone to see if he would text me, well, he didn't. It just felt wrong. 

However, the issue now is whether YOU want him to check on you. Because we are so used to having a guy showing and expressing concern for us, it may be strange if we get into a relationship where our man doesn't seem too bothered. Certainly, there are plus points- some say because there is trust, there is more freedom. 

But the point I'm driving at is, do you really want this freedom? Do you want your partner to seem nonchalant and unconcerned all the time? I definitely don't. I would like it if he would text me once or twice throughout the night to "check" on me or tell me he is thinking of me.

5. Singaporean men are good looking. 

I read an article criticizing Asian men, that Asian men are short, and there were a lot more offensive remarks.

I got so mad when I read that because the writer is undoubtedly giving a biased opinion. 

Singaporean men aren't short. Their the perfect height for petite Asian women. I don't want a giant as a boyfriend! 

Singaporean men have unique features, yes most of them don't have high foreheads and long sharp noses but some have cute baby faces and we also have men with chiseled faces. 

I very much prefer men with cute noses and single eye lids rather than deep set eyes and long sharp noses, it's all individual preference, but it's definitely Singaporean men for me. 

6. Singaporean men complete 2 grueling years of national service for the country 

And this alone proves that Singaporean men can be independent, disciplined, loyal, courageous and dedicated. (Even if they don't feel like it) 

7. Singaporean men are romantic

Some of my female friends who insist on only dating white men claim that Singaporean men are far from romantic.

I definitely don't agree with that, it's either you haven't made him feel like he wants to do something really nice for you or your expectations are way too high. 

They say white men are way more romantic, I agree with that, my ex boyfriend was a really sweet and romantic man but it often seemed like a hollywood romance, like expensive restaurants, presents, really expensive villa holidays etc. It just didn't seem very realistic and down to earth. 

Singaporean men... They are sweet in their cute, charming, endearing kind of way. The kind where you feel your heart melt and think, "Wow, I didn't know a guy would do that for me." 

I guess it's 2 different kinds of romance and to me, sometimes it really isn't about the money spent but the effort given.

And again this article isn't meant to dictate who you should be dating. I'm not saying men from other countries aren't good partners, they all have their plus points, in fact, I would encourage my fellow Singaporean women to date a foreign man at least once, it's an entirely new experience compared with dating a Singaporean man. 

Dating a foreign man has many plus points too, there's loads to talk about and learn from each other, and many foreign men can be really understanding and sweet. 

But if I were to settle down, I will never settle down with a foreign man in my own country, it just won't work that way for me because Singaporean men are my comfort zone. 

If you are thinking "Yeah and where the hell am I supposed to find such awesome men in Singapore?" because the nice guys are usually too shy to make a first move, right?


Fret not! 
Download "Paktor" now!

It is FREE to download and easy to use. Simply upload a profile pic or link the app to your Facebook page. 

Paktor also has a cross country function which you can use for checking people out in the region and you can use the app to check out attractive and interesting people near your location!

You can indicate your interest anonymously by swiping right on the person's profile, however you save any embarrassment of rejection because if the person is not interested (he will simply swipe left on your profile), Paktor will make no introduction between both parties and he will never find out you've liked him! 

Basically when you like someone, he or she will never find out unless he/she likes you back! A chat window will then pop up and you can talk to the person via Paktor's easy to use chat interface.

You can meet and chat with people from around Asia, simply by choosing the country you wish to meet people from! 

Paktor is easy and fun to use, so far I have met several nice guys on this app and am actually finding common topics to talk about with them. 
I think I'm probably going to search for guys in Korea next and hopefully I meet some cute Korean guys. HAHA. There is no lack of people on that app and I assure you, you will find someone nice to talk too. 
It is an awesome and stress-free app, just log on when you feel like having a chat and browse the profiles of people around you. 
Paktor is also giving away a $100 Capitaland voucher to one person who makes a 'match' with me on Paktor, so go download the app now and let's keep our fingers crossed on meeting each other there! 
Have fun with Paktor and hope you enjoyed this post! 

Saturday, March 29, 2014

7 things guys REALLY want


They aren't complex. Us girls try to figure them out, do detective work on their past, play confusing mind games, attempt to detect if there's any hidden meanings in what he tells you. 

Unfortunately, most of the time, there isn't any mystery to solve. And if he really wants the relationship to work, he'd tell you everything about his past if you ask. Nope, no detective work needed.

I also realized that there are TOO many articles on what a woman wants, what should a guy do for his girlfriend and how to please a woman, thus I would like to write this, sharing what I've learnt from previous dating experiences and past relationships.

Speaking for the average male here in Singapore, here are 7 things which a guy REALLY wants:

I would like to think that most guys are contended easily, and I dare say this article applies to most guys, but there'll obviously be exclusions to my stereotype.

1. Be beautiful. Or learn to be. 

A real man would like his partner to be beautiful. Not in terms of physical appearance but her heart.

She should be generous, passionate, compassionate and kind.

She should not be calculative, cruel with her words, and unappreciative.

She should not only be kind to people who are close to her, but this kindness should extend out to everyone who needs it. It can be simply saying thank you to the waitress serving your dinner, it can be empathizing with the less fortunate person selling tissue paper, but a woman who has the above mentioned traits is beautiful, not just to her boyfriend, but to everyone else who is lucky to have interacted with her. 

2. Listen. 

A lot of people I know seem to think everything is about them. When your boyfriend is telling you about his rough day at work, or how tiring his training in army was, please do NOT make it about you. A guy complains lesser than a woman, so if he does confides in you about how crappy he feels, it means he really needs to get it out, don't start telling him about how bad your day was too. 

Your boyfriend deserves to have your full attention and it's not all about you - listen, and you'll realize that it'd bring both of you closer. You can't listen or understand him properly when you are trying to talk too. 

3. Show him affection. 

Most guys don't talk about this because it'll make him seem like a softie. 

In fact, guys love affection. Run your fingers through his hair, squeeze his hand, rub his back, kiss his neck for no reason, he'd like it. 

As much as we girls love guys playing with our hair, (I love my guy to stroke my hair as I fall asleep), hug us from the back, kiss our forehead and cuddle us, guys love it if we do the same things back to them so go ahead and make him feel loved.

4. Understand him.  

So many women find that their partners may be impassive or unable to express how he feels properly. I'm telling you, it's normal. A guy may use every ounce of courage he has to tell his woman how much he loves her, only for her to say: "Are you sure?"

A guy can be insecure too, and because he is a guy, he will find it difficult to tell you of his insecurities. Underneath his tough guy facade, he will be torn thinking if his good enough for you, if you deserve better and whether you feel this way. Reassure him from time to time, show him love and affection, never try to make him jealous because it will hurt him more than you ever know.

He will find it hard to express himself, but if you are patient enough, he will show you a side of him you'll never realized existed. And when he does, realize you are fortunate enough to be the one to explore this side of him.

5. Trust him.

When a guy truly loves you, he would never do anything to hurt you. Yes, there are exceptions to this theory, but these exceptions only occur when the guy loves himself more than you.

Do not doubt him, do not question him or do anything to make him lose his faith. If he gives you his word that he will not cheat on you, believe him.

(If he does - it's him who loses you and a guy who cheats is never worth your tears.)

6. Treat him the way you want to be treated. 

Respect - Even if what he suggests or says sounds silly, do not laugh at him if he was being serious. It will hurt his ego, and broken pride can be tricky to navigate around. Tell him nicely, talk to him and explain why you disagree.

Understanding - Understand his needs, his wants and his burdens. Even if you can't help him much, it's comforting for him to know that you'd be around for him and not desert him when he needs you. 

Understand why is he keeping quiet, maybe he had a bad day at work, or maybe something is bothering him. 

Care - If his upset or mad at something, don't ignore him even if you have to text him 20 times. It's not about being desperate, it's letting him know, you care.

Tell him you care, you love him, and all the sweet, romantic stuff, YOU want him to tell you. Don't just wait to receive, as much as you like him telling you stuff like that, he would appreciate you being honest and open about your feelings towards him.

Surprises - I really reeeeaally love surprises. And as much as we all like to receive, I think it's great if both parties can love to give. Simple things like buying his favorite chocolate or the book he was telling you about, will let him know you do think of him even when his not around you. 

7. Be a goddess in bed. 

You don't have to look like Megan Fox to appeal to him. Be confident about yourself, it's not only you that's feeling awkward the first time you sleep together, he has insecurities too and as much as you are worrying whether he notices the cellulite on your butt, he is trying his best to make his stomach look as small as possible - and oh does his armpits smell?

I'm not saying you have to give him a mind blowing blow job, but it'll be fantastic if you can attempt to. If you're unsure whether he likes it, ask him.

If you don't fancy him eating you down below, tell him at the start. If a guy thinks you like something, he will do it, again and again. And if you hate oral sex, it's going to be embarrassing telling him you don't like it after he has been giving it to you for months. Yes, it'll also make him feel stupid.

Tell him how you love the way his lips are, how handsome he is, how perfect you think he is, tell him he was awesome in bed - and mean it. It will make his day or even his week, and he will try his best to please you more.

Many people don't realize that communication is an important part of sex, telling each other how you feel, makes you more vulnerable and 'exposed', and the sex that follows is gonna be mind blowing.


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Wednesday, March 12, 2014


These days I usually just buy lunch to office before going to work, to save money and also so I can just work through lunch.

But sometimes when I think I need cheering up (food indulgence!) I'll buy something nice for lunch. :D 

Nearby my office is Shinkansen, decided to try the food there a few days ago.


It's a very 'fast' concept, first just pick your base - sushi rice / brown rice / mixed greens / soba noodles. 

Next you pick your toppings from a variety offered such as - cucumber, raisins, pine nuts, broccoli, mushroom, pasta, croutons - they've a huge variety of toppings so you're sure to find a few you want. 

Then you can pick your Add-ons which includes yummy stuff like Parmesan cheese, bacon bits and apricots. 

You can pick your meats next, the choices include - prawns, smoked duck and Parma ham. 

Finally you pick a sauce, from choices like balsamic vinaigrette, yuzu mayo and sweet Thai chili. 

There's also a selection of pre-packed salads and sashimi if you want a quick take away. 

Salmon set 

Dining in is also possible, the interior of this place is small but cosy with high ceilings and warm lighting, expect only bar seats though. 

Interesting sounding names... 

Today's specials 

And my lunch is done in about 5minutes! It looks great and I like how there are so many greens to choose from. The smoked duck is not bad but I think imma try the Parma ham when I feel a need to eat better food. Hehehe. 

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Sunday, March 9, 2014

Typical Deborah Weekend

Haven't done a Typical Deborah weekend post for ages since I started my full time job, so because I'm feeling so refreshed after sleeping in until 2pm earlier today, (it's Sunday now and I'm drafting this) I decided to blog today! :D 

So for the past 2 nights, I've been heading to FashionTV Club at Clark Quay. If you do remember, I blogged about a BBP (biggest baddest parties) event there before. 

I like the classy interior of the place, and the best part is, it's huge. Like really comfortable plush sofa seats and there's lots of space everywhere. Crowded clubs are good, it's fun and lively, but overly crowded clubs aren't fun at all, you've to squeeze to get to the dance floor, fight through a crowd full of drunks to get to the toilet - you get the idea. 

At FashionTV Club (f club) it's crowded, but not overly crowded, and the music there is really awesome, I like the fact that they have their own FASHION Vodka, and prosecco too. 

Friday night after work, outfit to F club! 

My dear Yan and another 2 girlfriends came to find me, and after that I went to Playhouse with Yan to see some old friends! 

Honestly to me, when people say friends come and go, yeah I totally believe that's true, but I'd always make some effort, even if it's just a quick hi, to remind the old friends that we were once close before and I'll still be around if you ever wanted to hang out. 

(I miss my old friends T_____T )

And yesterday night, I managed to finish up my draft on Why guys should not pay on the first date, after working on it and constantly editing and delaying for 2-3 weeks. 

I truly love to write posts like that, with my views, or opinions or even ideas on certain topics, but it's so time consuming, and with my full time job, I hardly have enough time to do anything else. I haven't even been shopping much lately, so that's how busy I am. 

BUT.. I would still write posts like that every 2 weeks or so, and I thank the people around me, those I don't even know on Facebook, who read and share my posts. I feel extremely satisfied when people tell me they like how I write and my content is awesome. 

Saturday's outfit to F club! 

And because I haven't been shopping much, I'm running out of clothes to wear...

If you do realize, I don't quite like wearing the same piece twice, unless I really do like it or it's a basic piece like a black bandage skirt.

I really need to go shopping soon, probably sometime this week after work. :D

With Elizabeth yesterday 

 And on Friday, my colleagues asked me out for lunch. Less than a 10 minute walk away from my office was Asia Square Mall, I didn't even know this place existed; really have to do more exploring but I hate going out in the sun, rather stay in the office eating cold food.

We had Astons!! My colleague treated me in 'celebration' of me working 1 month in the firm. I honestly can't believe how nice SOME of my colleagues are. Their extremely helpful and always watching out for me. :')

Whenever I eat Astons, I have to have Mac and Cheese. Hehehe. I've tried the fried chicken before but didn't quite like it, the pork ribs I had was rather nice though. 

(Note: Thanks Dex for bringing me to Astons LOL if not I'd probably die without tasting such yummy food) 

Some food pictures just to make you hungry. 

My other colleagues ordered from Imperial Treasure. (it's a huge food court with many different stalls)

So yeah that sums up my weekend, and next weekend, I hope to do something more productive then just partying. I've been craving for a swim for ages but just too lazy, and it's that time of the month this week so....

Anyway, stay tuned for my next blog post and thank you for reading! xxx

Saturday, March 8, 2014

Why guys should not pay on the first date

Nowadays, all we talk about is gender equality, feminism, about how women are as equally good and capable as men.

But when we talk about getting the bill, it becomes a whole new subject in debate. Suddenly gender equality don't apply, and it's a mandatory for men to get the bill on a first date and subsequent dates thereafter.

While I was thinking about what to blog about for my next post, I happened to be talking to my girlfriends and we were on the subject of whether men should pay for women, (for meals, movies, you get the idea) and to my surprise, 2 of them said yes definitely and the other one said if it's a first date, he should pay.

But... My stand is that a guy should never pay on the first date and here are my reasons why:

1. It's a first date! 

You don't know if it's going to progress any further than 1 or 2 dates, it doesn't seem wise to be paying for someone you barely know despite how well both of you got along, and unless you can really afford it, I'd suggest that you let her pay for herself. 

2. She's not doing you a favor. 

The mentality some women have is that, - I'm doing you a favor having dinner with you, and thus you're obligated to pay for me. That is SO wrong. If she thinks she's doing you a favor by giving you her time and you should pay in return, it's more like you 'buying' her already. 

Honestly I don't deny I would like the guy paying, I save my money this way. But every date is an investment. It's an investment of your time, and money. And while investing, expect to have some losses as well - spending money eating out at a restaurant, paying for your own movie ticket.  Not every date will work out, not every guy you date will become your boyfriend but regardless, the point is for you to enjoy the entire experience and who knows? It could be love! :)

3. The test. 

It's a first date, and usually, regardless of whether she offers to pay or not, it's a test of how generous you are, and how much you would be able to provide her with in future.

However, it is important to realize that YOU, matter too. It's your first date with her, and you should also test her and see what kind of female is she. 

4. You can test her character. 

If she insists on paying for herself, it is likely she is someone who is independent, who looks out for herself and these are good characteristics you'd want to find in someone whom you'd want to get into a relationship with. 

However, if she looks surprised or upset when you don't pay for her share, it is rather likely that she is someone who is dependent on her partner, who expects and demands for more than you can offer, and who will whine about every little thing and independent women will shrug off. 

5. She'd expect it. 

If you hastily took out your wallet when the bill is brought to your table, chances are, on subsequent dates, she'd expect you to continue paying, after all you already made it seem that you're obligated to. 

I'm not saying all women are like that, but there is a significant figure of women who have that mentality, and I actually have female friends who are like that. 

I'm a 'better be safe than sorry' kind of person, so I'd advise never to pay in the first place to avoid future awkwardness and hesitation when it comes to paying the bills. If the relationship does progress into something more, and you're quite certain your feelings towards her are reciprocated, then you might like to start paying for her.

6. Never let a woman feel that she is entitled to what you can offer. 

The thing I really dislike in many females is that they expect things. I heard stories about women not even bringing their wallets with them on the first date. (If you think I'm exaggerating, Google: Kishore Nimmala)

If she feels that she is entitled to all you can offer, it is likely she won't appreciate you nor thank you for what you provide or give her in future. 


With all that said, everyone is still entitled to his/her take on the matter, you can say I'm all wrong and men should always pay.

But regardless, the guideline is never to be, or appear to be cheap.

Guys who are cheap is one of the biggest turnoff in the early stages of dating.


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Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Date with girlfriend

So someone reminded me I'm neglecting my blog and it suddenly hit me that it's already almost Thursday and I haven't even updated about my weekend! It actually passed my mind to update my blog but the thought quickly passed, my mind's so crammed full of stuff these days I think I'm gonna explode any time. 

So I'll start school in May, pretty excited and I'm exempted from 2 modules, business accounting and business law so yay! Hopefully can finish the rest of the modules and move on to the degree. *cross fingers* 

And today I was so mad because I walked Into my bed room door wtf. So my dad woke me up, and I got out of bed. I CLEARLY remembered opening the door but y'know when you're half asleep minutes seems like seconds and everything seems all weird and jumbled up. 

So when I wake up, I usually close my eyes and walk to kitchen, I don't open my eyes until I washed my face. And I CLEARLY remembered opening the damn door. But then I banged my head on the door and got a shock I literally jumped. In my shock, I opened the door and my toe got crushed by the door. I was practically threatening to murder the door after that. What a great start to the day. 

Last Sunday, met my lovely girlfriend Yan for dinner at Pepper lunch. 

Oh and I re pierced my nose. 

Kinda sad I didn't keep the previous nose piercing, it was well seasoned already, (could leave the stud out for 1-2 days and the hole would still be there) but the stud kept falling out and I got irritated so closed it. Also it was pierced too high so I can't put a nose ring.

Yes!! This time I got them to pierce lower and you'd be seeing a nose ring on me soon! :D 

Le gf with her awesome purple hair 


And I didn't even club last weekend so it was a pretty crappy weekend. Luckily I met Yan; it was the highlight and only happy bit of my weekend. 

This weekend would be a better one and next, even better, I hope! 

Working on another blogpost soon so I hope to get that up next week or this weekend! xx 

Monday, February 24, 2014

[Adv] Summeriscent

My obsession with floral prints started when my sister brought home a floral top years ago, when Scape underground was still a hot, sweaty and stuffy flea market with vendors selling preloved clothes. The top she brought home was chiffon material, with dusty pink roses on a cream base, and the straps had little bows on it. Since then, I've fell in love with floral prints. 

I'm quite fussy when it comes to clothes, and similarly, I don't just like any floral print I see, the flowers have to be well defined and the pattern should be nicely blended, don't like too harsh colours either. 

When I received these 2 gorgeous pieces from 

I absolutely fell in love with both of them. 

My first pick was the 

Vintage floral print bralet 

and the floral prints are so vintage and pretty!! 

It surprisingly goes well with a lot of my sweaters, because it's hard to match print on print. 

And like this kimono, it looks really pretty worn together.

I'm a flower girl~ for 5 minutes.

My second pick was the 

Floral clusters on Dark blue bralet

And it's equally as pretty, I love the little details of the floral clusters and the fact that these bralets have boning make it all the more better! 

I liked the bralets that much that I spent 40 minutes taking pictures, and I think these pics hardly do justice to how gorgeous the floral prints were. 

Thank you Summeriscent for the pretty bralets, go check out their store now on Instagram!!

and they have a store for bikinis too, floral bikinis at only $20, honestly I think it's an absolute steal