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Saturday, January 11, 2014

About 7 women that men dislike

Now, let's talk about men. Proper grown up men. Or at least, one with a career, a goal or objective in life, one who spends time with his family, one who has dated around enough to know what characteristics he want in his partner, and one who respects himself enough to show respect for any and every woman out there.


"Because you, don't deserve anything less than what you deserve."


1. Bitchy females 

Men hate bitchy girls. Or women. Females who spend all the time finding fault with someone else, in general: his buddies, his family, any other female.

It is annoying. Men don't like being on the same subject of how short your female colleague's skirt is and how inappropriate it is for the office for 30 mins. He doesn't care. He wants his dinner.

The thing is, men are unlike women.

The average female can go on and on about the "ugly bitch" for 15 mins, discuss what we ate for dinner yesterday and how much calories we gained, and then talk about the "ugly bitch" for another 10 mins. And, that is why I need a bimbo session with my girlfriends once every week. It's really to clear out all the "toxic" in my system, to bitch about random people and random things and to gossip about others. Thus when I meet my other half (not that I have one yet. Meh.), I would be ready to go into deeper conversation, about his work, about life, future plans etc. and not engage in shallow bitchy topics.

I am definitely not saying that my girlfriends are bitches or bimbos, but it would be hypocritical to claim that I don't bitch about other people, and I don't talk bad about anyone at all. All females do to a certain extend, it's in our nature to have a little gossip every now and then.

And moral of the story is:  girls, don't neglect your girlfriends for your other half. You will need a girlfriend session now and then and it certainly won't happen with your boyfriend. You'd probably just annoy the fuck outta him. I love all my girlfriends! They bring out the bitchy side in me! :-D



While writing this post, I decided to do it better and get some opinions from my male friends so I could do a better job. So the above is part of the conversation with a male friend of mine, I posed the question, "Is your other half being bitchy a major problem?" and that was his reply. 

I guess one of the reasons why men can't stand their partners bitching is because if she could be so mean about her "BFF" behind her back, he would be wondering "What the hell is she telling her girlfriends about me?" 

Also, I realized most guys with an active social circle of friends prefer it if their girlfriend could get along well with their mates, for the simplest of all reasons: So everyone can hang out together. 

He don't have to ditch his girlfriend for his friends, and he won't have to listen to his girlfriend whining when he is out with his mates. Although... If she is an extremely bitchy female, it would be unlikely that she would be able to get along well with his friends. At the end of the day, she would be complaining how boring and lame his friends are, and disallow him to spend time with them. 

It's not necessarily a major reason for a breakup but it does affect the relationship to a large extent. 

2. Materialistic females 

This may not seem like a huge problem in the early days of a relationship, afterall, the Prada bag she carries looks classy on her and the Chanel pumps are pretty enough. 

However, women (or men) who chase after money or physical objects at the expense of relationships would likely bring unhappiness to people around them although they do not realize it as they are too caught up in their own selfish desires and materialism. 

A women who is materialistic has a tainted view of relationships. She enters a relationship hoping and expecting for something. She does not contribute or bring anything with her into the relationship but yet expects to be pampered. This brings along feelings of envy and jealousy, depression and unhappiness.  

Certainly, many hardworking and career-driven women are able to provide for themselves enough to not expect anything from their partner. The point that should be focused on is the extent of the materialism. If she is someone who worries about her transport fares or whether she has sufficient savings to feed herself the rest of the month, and yet is carrying the latest Gucci bag, or whines to you about how her girlfriend's boyfriends buy them branded bags, RUN AWAY. The last thing you want to do is to spend your hard earned salary on a shallow girl like that. 

"I think that the average guy wants someone he can be proud of and that takes some care with her looks and appearance, but I don't think the average guy wants someone that is all consumed by it. Everyone has their own preference and limit either way." 


3. Females who crave attention

I suddenly thought of this point while drafting the post. The reason why I listed "females who crave attention" as one of the major factors of a woman that men dislike is because, although most men don't realize it, females who crave attention can destroy a relationship. 

It is difficult to understand the gravity of the consequences of being together with a female like this, so let me elaborate. 

I have a friend, or an acquaintance actually, we have many mutual friends. So one day, when we were out just talking and joking around, someone asked him about his girlfriend. Immediately, his face changed entirely. Upon talking more, it was mentioned that his girlfriend had cheated on him more than 10 times.  It could be well seen that he loves this cheating girl dearly and treated her well. So the issue is, why did she cheat on him? And it's with 10 different guys btw. 

Basically the summary of everything that was said that day went like this: "Guys will talk to her on Facebook. They flatter her, they compliment her, telling her she's hot, she's pretty. She likes people to praise her. She even met this guy on Facebook, and despite never meeting him before in person, she went straight to his house for the first 'date.' I don't know what's wrong with her. I'm tired of it. When I find out, she will cry and beg me to stay and say she would never do it again. Less than 3 weeks later she cheated again. I don't know what to do anymore except close one eye and just pretend I don't know it happened." 

I was really upset for him too, I mean it's pretty obvious he loves her from the way his face lights up when he talks about their good times, and he is willing to put up with so much shit and shame from her (alot of our mutual friends know about her cheating ways), yet this dumb girl obviously can't appreciate him enough to stop sleeping around. 

In my opinion, it all boils down to craving attention. 

First of, if she is confident of herself, of her looks, why the FUCK does she need random guys on Facebook telling her she's hot and pretty? And by actually feeling flattered, or gaining happiness or pleasure from these guys praising her, it shows an extreme lack of self confidence. 

Second, I'm not saying I won't feel flattered if someone praises me. I'm grateful and thankful people appreciate me. But I don't gain happiness when people praise me, neither do I need these compliments. 

Third, most guys should know this extremely well. Complimenting women, making them feel like they are wanted, is simply preying on their insecurities. Weak women fall prey to this. I'm not saying you should not compliment your girlfriend, your female friends. By this I mean complimenting someone that you know you just want to get into bed, calling her hot, pretty, getting a random females number from a club and telling her she's gorgeous. 

And guys who are reading this, be wary of women who crave attention. It would be likely that she would be more concerned about her own happiness than yours. She is too busy thinking about her insecurities, about how to make herself feel better than to compliment you on your new hair cut, or to listen to your hard day at work. Comparisons are made all the time and she would expect you to flatter her, if you don't an argument ensues. 

Yes, you won't feel happy either. Every little thing you say i.e. Your dress today makes you look bigger. will get picked on. She will bring this up for the next few weeks in every argument saying that you don't appreciate her, you criticize her and so on. A woman who knows and appreciate herself would simply brush it off and it would be forgotten later. 

And of cuz, every girl, and woman has her insecurities. It is whether she can cope with them, or she needs the words of others to cope with them. Women who are happy and confident about themselves will add happiness to your life. A girl who craves attention is simply satisfied with anything anyone else can give her. In a healthy relationship, I believe both partners should compliment each other from time to time. It's not about an ego boost. It's letting each other know she (or him) is appreciated. A relationship is not just about giving your girlfriend the attention she needs everyday. You, the guy, deserves attention and compliments too. 

4. Ungrateful females 

100% of the guys I dated find that ungrateful females are a big turn off.

Well... I am not a guy so I can't exactly relate to that. But I am someone who believes in thanking the person, for his time, for dinner, for sending me back. Be it a simple text telling him thank you for sending me home or telling him in person, I would always do that after every date.

And to my surprise, guys like it. They like feeling appreciated. They like knowing that we women take note of the little things they do for us.

My friends always complain to me that their girlfriends take them for granted. When I asked, "In what way?", they would tell me stuff like, "Come and pick her up she complain I'm late. Bring her eat she say the place so cheapskate."

Tbh from my point of view, being around females most of the time, I find it very normal. I do complain sometimes too, like if I've to wait more than 30 minutes I get fed up as well. But I don't throw a tantrum over it. I will probably say " Now you have to buy dinner." Because to me, it's no big deal. It's not something that's tantamount to anything serious enough for an argument.

The point is, he made the effort to pick me up, and that is sufficient enough for him to be appreciated.

But now I'm not talking about me. I'm talking about guys. And the fact is, similarly to us females, guys like to know that they are appreciated and valued.

And how exactly do you show your appreciation? The thing about (most) guys is, they are contended with little actions. (quoted from male friends of mine) You don't have to buy him a diamond necklace or a LV wallet to make him smile.

Do little things. Massage his back. Pay for the next dinner or buy him a round of drinks. Surprise him with the book he wants and tell him you appreciate everything he does for you. In my past relationship, I even buy silly stuff like chocolate biscuits or his favorite sweets and just put it in his bag. I can tell you, this means a hell lot do the guy if he is in love with you and it will just make him feel that he is, indeed with the girl of his dreams.

Time to buck up fellow girls.

5. Princesses 

This is one major attitude of females that men dislike.

How do you define a 'princess'? In my own opinion, I believe it's someone who is extremely demanding, narcissistic, petty, immature, critical and selfish. (see Ungrateful Females)

I've never met a 'princess' before and honestly, I don't think I am one. I expect that a guy treat me reasonably nicely and respect me. That's about it. I don't demand for more neither do I expect for more.

And with all sincerity and honesty, I think respect for a woman- be it the aunty selling food at the coffee shop, or your mother's friends, or the beautiful woman in the club- is the least a man should do. You were brought into the world by a woman and no matter how it works, any gentleman or self-respecting man should treat every single girl, or woman, with the respect you would expect your daughter's boyfriend to give to her later in life.

6. Women who are too clingy/overly independent 

These are 2 far opposite characteristics and men don't like either of them. I think the challenge is to find the right balance between being too clingy and overly independent.

Now, women who are too clingy, who can't leave you alone for a night with your friends, who can't take care of herself, who needs you there with her 24/7 is a major turn off.

Guys need their space, they need time to hang out with their friends, to play their computer games, to work, to just chill out alone sometimes.

And it's seriously annoying if his other half does not give him his space and constantly demands attention all the time.

On the other hand, overly independent women. To be frank, I don't find this a turn off at all but I guess I can understand why it's a cause to be upset about from a male's point of view.

Overly independent women do not need a guy and she shows it without realizing it. For example, when her boyfriend wants to send her home, she insists there is not a need to and that she will be fine going home at 5am herself.

The thing is, she doesn't realize it's not about her.

Men who love their girlfriends want to protect her. He wants to care for her and show it. He is protective of her well being and wants to ensure that she is safe, and loved. The woman does not realize it. By brushing off his well meant actions makes him feel that he is not wanted nor needed by her.

 I would choose to think of myself as close to the latter but also with a mix of the former at times. Perhaps somewhere in between. I don't need a guy in my life, but I want someone to love, to care for and hopefully, to have these feelings reciprocated through actions. It's kind of confusing for me, because at times I can be wanting to have someone beside me so badly, but yet also feel that I don't really need anyone to be there for me. Like I said, the challenge is to find the right balance and I'm still learning to do it.

7. PMS females 

Hahaha. This is probably the WORST of all.

Most guys don't understand what the fuck did he do wrong. During our PMS days, it's not about you that's wrong. It's usually the females' fault. And don't blame us. It's our hormones.

It would be perfect if a guy could understand the agony of our cramps and also how depressed some of us get sometimes during this period. We could be more sensitive and emotional than usual, and what we want is just for someone to be there.

However, I do understand the shit we drag our boyfriends through during our PMS periods. Guys get scolded for no reason, mood swings tremendously, everything he says gets picked on.

It is difficult, but after years, I finally managed to control my emotions even while having difficult periods. I get really bad cramps (once my Dad wanted to call an ambulance to take me into hospital lol it was that bad) to the extent I roll around in agony and cry to myself and I have tremendous, crazy, psychotic mood swings. I don't know why, I just couldn't help it.

But after taking years of pain, panadols and learning, I learnt to say "Give me a minute" when I feel like throwing a tantrum or just screaming at my other half for no reason. And if I feel that I was about to erupt through Whatsapp, despite what my inner evil self was screaming at me to do (scold him, fuck him off), I would calmly reply that I was going to take a nap and to talk later on.

And it works. All the time. No more arguments (which we can never recall why it started) during my period (in my past relationships) and it was more of a time where I felt more closely bonded to my other half because I was more emotional and able to speak clearly of how I feel.

So, for guys - how to handle PMS females. 

The answer is, you can't. I don't even know how to handle myself during my PMS days.

The easiest, easiest thing to do is, don't entertain her. Yes it may sound cruel, but trust me, give it an hour, she would be back to the sweet, charming and adorable girl you were dating.

Tell her she is loved and appreciated, and if she is still intent on picking a fight, take some time apart from each other. It's the evil PMS hormones and not our fault. lol!

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Anyway, I hope this post is well written and that it meets to the expectations of those who read my blog, and yes, I spent 18 hours on this post, trying my best to project the inner voices and thoughts of males.

Don't forget! I am a female and it's frickin not easy to see things through a guy's perspective and for my female readers I hope it provides some insight to how men feel.

I will be thinking and start drafting another new post soon so do check back! :-D

123 comments:

  1. Nice ! You do unds what guys want .

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  2. What we guys want is just a good bj

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    1. I think she ruled you guys out before the list started. "Proper grown up men. Or at least, one with a career, a goal or objective in life..."

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    2. Well, I don't see how "Proper grown up men. Or at least, one with a career, goal or objective in life..." does NOT want a good bj. Bill Clinton (BC) used to be President of The United States and BC got a good bj, and also a good publicity about it too. What I think Anonymous January 18 is trying to say here is that, men and women are not the same emotionally, physically and mentally. Or maybe he just want that good bj. - Anonymous January 21.

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    3. Every proper grown up men, with career, a goal, objective in live wants bj. Else they will eventually have other alternatives.

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    4. The alternative being love making with your partner. Just saying.

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    5. Indeed a BJ felt great... but it only last for that few minute... What's important is being able to see her smile just because you've done something for her... that is true joy...
      What a guy want is a thoughtful, lovely, responsible, sometime independent girl/woman.. so that once got married, she can do her part as a wife and a mother...
      A good looking girl that can give a great sex but nothing more is just like watching porn that makes you high...
      my opinion....

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    6. Skip bj and go straight to the good stuff

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    7. all men will enjoy a good bj and great night of passion, just saying...

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  3. Just replace everything with Men. About 7 men that women dislike. Everything still hold.

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    1. thats right hahahaha. thats basically all traits of females haha

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    2. Good article on 'what guys really wants' or 'perfect girl'. The thing is everyone here needs to understand that there will not be a perfect girl without any of that flaws including the blogger herself. Relationship is a 2 way thing. Remember, all 'normal' girl do have some of the 'traits' mentioned above. If the girl has a certain pertaining quality towards one of the traits which was too overboard, one should seek treatment cause probably she has a personality disorder. I suggest dear blogger to post something about what a girl wants as well. Afterall relationship is a 2 way thing and also by means u are a girl and should be more understanding of girls right? :)

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    3. I think you shall write one more article about what ladies dislike about men.

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    4. You shall write one more article about what ladies dislike about men.
      Love, there is no right or wrong, no universal rules to Be followed. A successful and long lasting relationship depends on how two parties tolerate themselves and adjust every imbalanced part.

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    5. There are a lot of that written already. :) 99 percent of articles are about women all the time.. Guys like myself seldom are given attention enough for an article like this to be published. Its all about girls.. how to make her feel loved, how to make her happy.. how to treat her well, etc. Guys? NAH.

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    6. Interesting reading. I am assuming you are from Malaysia/Asia. Culture also defines the relationships between the sexes. I know that the Malaysian/Asian people value family ( and food!) more than anything else. They value family and mostly have their parents, aunts etc living with them. The only common denominator , in my opinion , is sex. Most men ( and women, although men do not realise this),initially want sex. This is not bad. It is part of nature. It is up to each person how far this goes. Your blog on dislikes etc,as one or two have commented is in everyone. It depends on which is dominant.
      I have noticed a change in Malaysian/Asian culture. Sad really. Worshiping money and objects. Success measured by money rather than family. There never were " retirement homes or old peoples homes", in Malaysia 30 years ago. I forgot, mobile phones, both in Asia and the West have changed our culture. Children playing games at dinner instead of speaking to their parents. The mobile phone is your new god.
      An interesting book which you can download free (pdf) is humorous and based on fact why men are different to women. Enter into google : why men don't listen and women can't read maps. This should bring up a download link. If you cannot read English it has been printed in 31 languages.
      Continue blogging!
      Have you worked out what type of woman you are? Everyone sees people differently, this is why we are so divers.

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  4. should put a tl;dr.
    your post, while informative, is too wordy.

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  5. Well said, not all girls understand guys like you did.

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  6. Well said!! Not all girls understands us like you did.

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  7. wah thats a great piece of article.

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  8. The ungrateful part. Totally agreed. I think I need to be nicer to my boyfriend. Sometimes it takes a third person to wake you up haha THANK YOU.

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  9. great. but can you do one, that women dislike?

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  10. You have hit the bull's eye. Good job! :)

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  11. If all you want is a good bj go buy a fleshlight, you dont deserve a girl

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  12. Yes. True article

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  13. Very insightful thoughts. Cheers.

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  14. Incredibly relatable article, appreciate your effort for typing them out so we can share with the society.

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  15. And I wonder why you are currently single?! You seem to know men well... And you are one gorgeous babe!! I hope you will find your other half eventually.

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  16. Thanks for a well written article. Your inner male voices are pretty spot on. It definitely feels like you've spent quite a bit of time contemplating the issue. I'm so gonna post this article on my gf's wall. Not because she has any of these traits, but just to thank her that she doesn't ;) You're awesome and do always stay awesome! :D

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  17. Very good article. You are very well known of men. Salute!

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  18. firstly dont call women "females"
    i do agree from pointers 1 - 4
    and i do find the writer opinion from 5-7 too much to ask for in a women.
    why not just date or marry urself.

    dont forget where u come from, your mom is also a female.



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    1. I don't see what's wrong with using female.In a way it's safer than using either "girl" or "woman" in the sense that if you say "girl",some might get offended and go all "Oh I ain't no a girl I'm already a grown mature woman" and even vice versa.Yes trust me I HAVE HEARD some people use the excuse of being young to try and justify themselves.

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  19. you have a little spelling mistake there hehe, (Y)

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  20. This girl is a mind reader. She really knows male psychology. Props!

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  21. "A women who is materialistic has a tainted view of relationships." It is suppose to be A WOMAN. Not women. (:

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  22. Good Job. Materialistic and emotional pms period are turn off. But then again sometimes its personality to match both.
    Guys also can have pms (sudden horny personality) when they don't have enough sex in a month. lol..so treat your men right. Life is but balance

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  23. Easier said (or rather type) than done. ALL girls know it, but the thing is, can they do it?

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  24. what about libido? :O

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  25. Could you do an extra category of immature girls? I understand nobody likes a Know-it-all but when it comes the I-told-you-so-moment and guys get blame for it and then it escalates....

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  26. Thank you! You just made my day so much better. You are AWESOME!!!!!

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  27. Omg spot on! Especially 4, 5, 6!

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  28. I would really like this to be shared and most importantly my girlfriend. You did a great job in know what guys want.

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  29. Wow, i'm impressed

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  30. Hi Deborah, great article... Good job!
    You have understand and laid down a detailed summary of what runs in a guys mind.
    I believe, most the guys wish they can make their girls read the above let alone, understand... :)

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  31. Best thing i've read so far in 2014. Well done darling. Someone come and pick this sweetheart up right now.

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  32. Anyways, sometimes its hard to seek for girls that are not princess material or materialistic. Once we see girls holding any branded stuff I.e prada, LV and etc we get turn off. Won't even bother trying since I assume girls like that are high maintenance. Well this is just my thoughts :)

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    1. Well isn't this an assumption. We women like to pamper ourselves at the expense of our own money. We don't expect guys to pamper us and buy all these things for us. And just because we carry branded bags, doesn't mean we are high maintenance. We can still carry our LV bags and eat at a local hawker center after work. Not all of us are like what you think. Having such assumptions just proves that you yourself don't have the confidence to get to know these girls.

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  33. May I know how you would describe yourself? Do you not possess any of the above mentioned traits? You sound like you're perfect, seemingly flawless.

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    1. lol.. the author already mentioned in some of the points above even she used to throw tantrum and try to control her emotion, she also need to find her friends to gossip instead of telling her other half and learning to balance herself for not too clingy or overly independent. She didn't even trying to sound like she's perfect but just telling how girls/women/female can be even better in treating their life partner, and what do guys don't really like.

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  34. KNOWING and APPLYING are different. You can know everything about men, but if you can't apply any of those theories, it is still the same. And to always stick to these theories in real life is not that easy due to the fact that humans are emotional, not to mention that every man is different and their needs changes with every stage of life. So basically, if you follow these theories closely for real, 1)your life could be hard, 2)it may not match your bf/gf's personality, 3)wasted your time trying to figure out how to please your bf/gf and maintain the relationship without enjoying the relationship itself. Therefore my point is, fixed theories and solutions are rubbish. Humans are flexible, we adapt to changes in life. So more importantly is that we follow our heart, follow where our feelings lead us, understand the other half, and solve problems accordingly.

    Anyway, good job in writing this long article. You have good points there. :) Wish you all the best in your life.

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  35. U may seem to understand guys very well but r u sure ur not one of those 7 women? it would be totally different once ur in a relationship. Things happens, unexpected things that made u to become one of those 7 women.

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  36. Well, all was spotted on and thanks for the words out!! davidxyoji

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  37. Why do men want to be with women when they are so different? great article!

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  38. So you're trying to say that you're flawless and you dont do all these things that you just described? You seems to be very appreciative, very funny, very nice. Personally, I dont think so.

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    1. Did you finished reading the article word by word? Don't be a moron... She never claimed to be flawless, in the article she did say she's occassionally this & that.

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  39. With this post, you just gained another fan! LOL!

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  40. Kinda accurate but I don't think you have to keep going back on how you're not like that. I mean who cares? Sounds like you're the one trying to seek attention by 'advertising' yourself

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  41. Totally Agreed with You =) (y)

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  42. you will definitely catch a great relationship very soon when you know how to express the guy's thought...

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  43. Ok ma not bad ma, you sound like a thoughtful lady....keep up the good job on the blogs

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  44. im not any of those n still im single nice

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  45. Great,finally someone like u understand how a guy felt!!

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  46. Hmmm so it's okay to call other females bitches (/bitchy)??? And then you wonder why men disrespect women by calling them bitches. It's quite sad. Stop perpetuating the cycle..

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  47. Can't live with them, can't live without them.

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  48. great write up.
    if i may add another part abit:
    i do not know for other guy but
    i do like girls who can make decisions
    together. meaning they are open to discussion
    instead of projecting all her needs wants demands
    to us. u may list this under princesses i guess. :)

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  49. Thank you so much! My wife directed me to your blog, and it's really really heartening that a lady has written in appreciation of men.

    PS: Thanks for the tips (especially the PMS one)! I'm sure it's gonna save quite a few lives! :D

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  50. This article summed up the first 28 years of my life. I found out about each stereotype the hard way, some a much more painful lesson then others. Learning not to fall into one of those stereotypes, is much more then getting that guy or girl to like you (like one of the comments state, it goes both ways), but it makes you a better person as well.

    Don't beat yourself up when Mother Nature's oldest prank comes that time of the month, we guys *should* know what to do or at least, coincidentally get sent overseas for a business trip for a week. But don't let it affect the rest of the month when it is not there! And just a simple "Hey, thanks for baring with me, you have no idea what I went through, but I have about what you had to go through because of me." goes a long way to make your partner feel extra special, and perhaps, willing to call off the next business trip to be with you. ;)

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  51. Blog owner is just another type of woman that man dislike.

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  52. Good job. Really interesting information. Thumbups*

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  53. Thank you for posting. I'm sure it'll help a lot of girls understanding men, including me that is. And sometimes even the kindest girls also need to read this once in a while to remind them of it. :D Good job.

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  54. Now I under stand why the brand of the sanitary pad is called.."WHISPER" :O ... *puns intended*

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  55. Knows the secret to being a perfect girl for a guy......yet is still single?Hmm...what did you miss out

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  56. Just to add to point #5. In the guy's perspective, of coz it isn't nice if the girl expects too much and wants to be treated like a princess all the time. However, nowadays chivalry itself seems to have been lost as well. It would mean much more when the guy himself acts like a gentleman and treats the woman like a princess (Or do something really nice to make her feel like that) once in awhile. I guess it is more meaningful if the girl doesn't expects it and the guy do treat her like a princess once in awhile :)

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  57. Hmm.. u are writing bad about another girl and u mentioned that guys dont like girls who whine, complain and gossip about another girl, here u are writing such a long article about what another girl does, so what does it reflects on u? no one is perfect, dont tell me u dont possess any above of those points when u are taking posting your own pic which is irrelvant to this article page. Have a guess on how many of the 7 pointers u are slapping yourself on. Irony.

    and u missed out one pointer
    8. Ladies who tried to be smart and pretends that they know everything. (especially for you)

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    1. butthurt? think positively and u will get her message.

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  58. As a dude. I'd like a balanced girl with all those traits but not in extremes. I'd like to enjoy a luxurious dinner with a girl who knows how to appreciate it then can also complain if the food is shit. A girl that latches on to me when we are going out for our sweet time and leaves me alone when I'm working. Has her own opinions but is open to other perspectives. Gets her episodes so I'll know I'm loving her completely.

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  59. well said~! salute

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  60. I am frankly disgusted and repulsed by this article. As a female yourself, your backwards categorization of these "stereotypes" only perpetuate the misogyny already inherent in today's society (esp. in Malaysia!). Based on the many comments of this article, the main supporters of these overgeneralized statements are men. Please don't do this to women. You even contradict yourself when you describe the traits of a "princess" and immediately go on to say "I think respect for a woman is the least a man should do." How is your article helping in this again?

    I'm not saying that these negative traits you listed (eg. selfishness, pettiness, etc) are acceptable in any way, because I don't agree with them as well. However, what you could have written was an article on TRAITS that are disliked instead of subjecting women to such unfair generalization. You say you've drafted a new article, but for the love of God and fairness and gender equality, I really hope you don't.

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  61. Ouhh yeah, and men hates bimbo. Look at yourself.

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  62. This is long. I only read the 7 sub headers.

    The last one definitely was touching for me as I felt being understood

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  63. A very well written article. Enjoyed reading it

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  64. This is really good :)

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  65. Good, so can you be my girlfriend? Oh ya... one more point, guys dislike girl to reject them during confession, so i assume u understand guys well... call me maybe... teehee

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  66. Ser3nade a girl during pms, she gets wild you get lucky

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  67. I am a male...you have brought up 7 interesting points but I'm not going judge on these points...instead, the way you wrote this post is definitely not convincing enough as under each point you mostly claim that you are not like that...it seems you're kinda perfect if you are to be rated accordingly to these benchmarks, then this makes me wonder why are you still single???...after all, I re-think and I do feel that you are at least pretty much a person of your point one as you have clearly demonstrated all over your context.

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  68. This is such a well written post, it's good enough for me, as a girlfriend to thonk and reflect. on how to be a better girlfriend afterall..thanks! :D

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  69. No such woman exist. If you won't agree, I'd say you are hopeless. Every Woman has a little of it all. Character is what makes up a person, not her Perfections, imperfections Ans Flaws.

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  70. Dated types 2 and 4 for at least 3 years each before i had to let go. Starting to wonder where have all the good girls gone to.

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  71. For those getting "big headed", kindly be aware that u are feeding your Ego !

    Talk about bitching n attitudes, I've seen worse in some guys. Eg. I've come across guys who want their girls to look good, yet they did nothing on their part. It's like enjoy driving a car but no effort in maintaining, end up blaming the car for bad performance. Responsible driver owns good car due to his efforts !

    So if u have expectations of ur girlfriend / wife, are u up to expectations also ? If u are good enough, u will have the Wisdom to influence ur partner to be good as well !

    Relationship is about Unconditional Love, Respect, and Communication. Recognise that no one is Perfect, accept imperfections, stay Humble for constant improvement on personal growth. A wise partner can see ur values and would put in efforts to be at the same level as u :)

    It's actually all about Role modelling n Educating. Isn't these the Heavenly Teachings we have learnt but yet to put into practice ? If you understand the Teachings, u will know it's about Self-awareness, and nothing to do with Others.

    I've accepted imperfections n always looking for improvements for Personal Growth :) Life is a learning journey !

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  72. why dont you date a man then if you don't want all the fuss women create...just my opinion..no hard feelings ya.:)

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  73. Deb - as a guy, that chocolate biscuit idea of yours, that's solid gold! I love unexpectedly finding chocolate biscuits!

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  74. You will be a great partner!!!!

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  75. I'm a man and just to let u know that you are totally right ... very smart findings :)

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  76. Gotta disagree with this. All the traits that you listed out ARE in fact, traits of most females. No one is gonna fit perfectly into all the criterias man. You can't expect all girls to behave the same way in order to get guys to like them too.
    Moderation is key. As long as she's not over the top, I think guys will be able to see past it. Your post itself can ruin relationships, since it builds expectations from men towards their girls.

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  77. 100% correct till the end, girls whom will read this, will have to learn how to find a perfect balance with the opposite :)

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  78. A very good write-up. Every single touchpoint is valid - almost bulleye I would say.

    My only concern - was this done on a purpose to draw attention, ie to increase the fanbase or was it done out of conviction? While you speak about "women who craves for attention", I can't help but to notice the pictures you "model" in for your blog actually reflects on you being otherwise or not.

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  79. insightful. now i can tell her READ THIS! before i date you.. :-P

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  80. insightful. now i can tell her READ THIS before i even date you! :-P

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  81. There is a difference between a girl and a mature lady..

    We all have choices, bearing in mind no one is perfect. Once decided, pls man up to bite the bullet and work on the relationship.

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  82. This is great, you pointed out everthing that a guys thought correctly, thumb up to you! :)

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  83. "Thus when I meet my other half (not that I have one yet. Meh.), I would be ready to go into deeper conversation, about his work, about life, future plans etc. and not engage in shallow bitchy topics."

    Point number 1 is just wrong in so many aspects. Sure no guy likes a girl who does on about what an "ugly bitch" this other girl is. But your boyfriend should also be your best friend, you should be able to tell him about that "ugly bitch", talk about shallow topics and engage in meaningless conversations and laugh about stupid things.

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  84. Ahhh you got most of the points out there.... bravo... you save alot of men the trouble of explaining shits to them... kudos :) ...reposting this one on my FB for sure... love the way u wrote it and pin it all down :)

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  85. what u wrote was amazing. and yes, PMS is the scariest thing that would make you think of mad ways to persuade her. hahaha

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  86. Good stuff! Maybe you should consider breaking up long posts like this into parts next time? Not many people will have the stamina or appetite to read the entire thing at once. As much as I love it I had to do a quick glance thru in order to finish it up :)

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  87. wow fantastic ! ... whoever is your ex or current boyfriend are the lucky ones... you touches the heart of many guys including myself... hope more ladies sees this and stop their nonsense with their attitude towards guys...

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  88. While it's true that guys do get annoyed by women who display these characteristics, it is also unavoidable unless you want your dating life to be restricted to online porn and your right hand. I've learned to expect women to be bitchy, gold diggers (though I'm not rich so it doesn't quite apply), and the five other inane redundant points you've mentioned. It's not that I'm cynical or that I hate women. It's part of their nature. And I figured how to turn it into an advantage.

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  89. a female getting the facts right :) veli gud well done

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  90. indeed...sometime it sound cruel...but that really happen..and as a man...im agreed with all 7 criteria mention above...haha..for girl, we don't want to control you for what you be..but do not be like that...seriously..

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  91. Hmmm..not sure about a few points on this list. Honestly? When I am ungrateful, push my man away, he can't get enough of me. When I am nice, buy him gifts, care for him, he seems appreciative but doesn't treat me as well afterward - it's like he begins to take me for granted...

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  92. This is just a woman's point of view on all men she views to be.
    However, not all men or people think the same way as you do but what you penned down is also what every single individual wants, craves or seeks after but not everyone will get them.
    Understanding between the 2 loved parties is critical as without understand, no matter how long your essay is, how detailed your blog maybe or how passionate it can get becomes all but a lie to you yourself. That simple understanding between the 2 individuals in love can send messages between themselves just from looks (of course not to the extent of knowing exactly 100% the intention across.)
    By the way, understanding someone without high expectation is ideal as sometimes when you expected someone to be of a certain calibre like how u described (career, objective in life, one who spends time with his family, one who has dated around enough to know what characteristics he want in his partner, and one who respects himself enough to show respect for any and every woman out there.) can also turn out to be the greatest liar in the world. Even if you understand your partner perfectly, you shld not give 100% trust. You may doubt me saying now, but when the time comes you might understand why I say so. And when you do find that stage a little hard to take, forgive and forget is sometimes the only way to do.

    Anyway be whomever you are with or who you are seeking be with, never take the short cut in life. Otherwise what you have blogged so far will come haunting when you fall. (No threat or offense intended here...just sharing from experience)
    Cheers & have a great life ahead!

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